Saturday, August 8, 2015

Are you living a simple life?

Many people pride themselves that they lead a simple life. But are they really?

What about you? Do you consider yourself living a simple life? If you are, then you should be finding things easy and simple. You will not have much to complain about? Does your simple life conform to this criterion? If it does, then you are doing well. If it doesn’t, then you need to work on making your life really simple.

When used with lifestyle, the word ‘simple’ is used in the sense ‘unostentatious.’ But the word ‘simple’ has got other shades of meaning like ‘not complicated,’ ’easy to deal with’ etc.  You can make your life simple by doing several small things
  • Not getting upset over small things
  • Tolerating the mistakes and imperfections of people close to you
  • Not cursing yourself for your mistakes and shortcomings
  • Believing that things are really simple

The last mentioned line of thinking will make you feel calm and poised when you face problems. Calmness and poise will come from a feeling of confidence and faith – confidence in your ability to overcome the problem and faith in positive outcomes.

People who achieve a lot in life adopt this simple lifestyle. All it needs is to develop a mindset that you will consider things to be simple and that things will turn out to be simple.

The legendary Sherlock Holmes while solving a crime often says, ‘Elementary, Watson!’ Because he considers the process of detection to be simple, he is able to solve  mysteries considered complex by other people.

You can begin to make your life simple beginning from today. Believe everything is simple. Learn to take things easy. Cultivate the habit to be calm and confident. Be gentle and tolerant towards others especially towards people close to you and people whom you are dealing with.

Very simple thing to do! Isn’t it so?

Monday, August 3, 2015

Don't allow a break to break your habit

You have planned to do some activity on a regular basis. You begin with a lot of enthusiasm. You keep going for a while. You are happy and proud that you have been able to make this activity a habit. What more, you have been getting results. And then, there is a break, for some reason. If it is a short break, perhaps, you will be able to resume your activity.

But, what if it is a long break? The break could have become longer either because you have not resumed after a short break or because you have been unable to perform this activity due to some other factor.

Should you still resume this?

The activity can be relating to your personal development like doing exercises, attending a class or practicing some skill. Or, the activity can be related to your profession Or, it can be writing a diary or a blog post!

Whatever is the nature of the activity, a break shouldn't be allowed to become a termination. You can resume the activity any time and you should. You have nothing to lose except your guilty feelings and your perception that the activity can't be resumed after a long break.

If the activity had a positive objective, it is worth resuming. As I write this, I remember that we find it very easy even compelling to resume activities that won't be beneficial to us! Create a compelling feeling to resume your activities with a positive objective, irrespective of the length of the break.

Well, I have resumed writing this blog after a long break. I am not going to apologize for the break.  because I don't know whether I will have to do this again in future. Instead, I rekindle my enthusiasm and resume this activity.

You can break a break any time. A long break is more difficult to break but it can be broken all the same!

Saturday, April 5, 2014

Five Things You Can Learn From A Pencil

  1. The pencil writes a lot including interesting stories, inspiring messages, enjoyable narrations etc. But it is not acting on its own. It is guided by a hand. In the same way, remember that all your actions are guided by God and we function as per His directions.
  2. Now and then the pencil has to stop writing. Its lead gets shorter and sometimes broken. It has to use a sharpener to resume its writing. So, it is ok if our progress is halted by some impediments or tragedies. You can emerge stronger from them by honing your skills and strategies.
  3. The pencil allows some of its work removed by the eraser. This is only to correct mistakes or rewrite something for making it better. Allowing our mistakes to be corrected by someone is not a bad thing. It helps us to improve our output.
  4. It is not the wooden exterior of the pencil that is important. It is the graphite inside which creates the pencil’s output. What is happening inside you is not important. And don’t judge anyone by their external appearances but by their values.
  5. Whenever the pencil is in action, it leaves a mark. All your actions leave  a Mark about you that can be seen by others. What more, these marks may remain for a much longer period than your existence in this world.

                                                          -    Adapted from Paulo Coelho’s ‘The Flowing River.’

Friday, March 21, 2014

Urgently needed

Today, I would like to reproduce an interesting message I received from my good friend Siva
Not Blood,


An ELECTRICIAN, to Restore the Current between People,
Who do not Speak to Each Other Any more.

An OPTICIAN, to Change the Outlook of People.

An ARTIST, to Draw a Smile on Everyone's Face.

to Build a Bridge between Neighbours.

to Cultivate Good Thoughts.


Last But Not The Least
for All of Us to Relearn How to Count on Each Other....


Just think which of the above positions you can fit into. i am sure you can fit into more than one, if not all!

Monday, March 17, 2014

Have You ever Been Inside A Prison?

What a question! Do you feel offended? I am sorry, I didn't intend to. The idea of bringing in the prison is to drive home a point> You know about prisons at various places. They are all outside you. But do you know there is a prison inside you? Yes, there is one in your mind. And do you know who is inside it? Who is imprisoned in the prison in your mind? You!

How is it possible? How can you be inside something that is inside you? As per the laws of Physics, you can't be. But in reality you can be? Don't you sometimes feel that you are unable to do something that you would like to. Your hands are free but you feel that they are tied. You feel that something or someone is holding you back. This means that you are not free. Not being free is the same as being in a prison.

There are several layers of prisons in your mind at different layers. You may be inside one sometimes. You can also be inside more than one prison at a time. However, most of us are bound inside a particular prison. This prison is the fear about what others would think if you do a particular thing. It is because you are inside this prison that often you are unable to do things which you would like to or which you ought to. Of course, it's in your hands to free yourself from this prison. the key to open these prison doors is a strong desire to free yourself from this fear.

The greatest prison people live in is the fear of what other people think.  - David Icke

Saturday, March 15, 2014

Are You Thankful?

Are you thankful?

Don't be offended by this question. I know you are a thankful person. But I would like you to ponder over how thankful you are. There are a lot of things to be thankful for but most of us choose to be thankful only occasionally.

Being thankful is not about having the courtesy to thank people who render you some service, whether he is your office assistant or a restaurant waiter. This kind of thanking, though valuable, has become so routine that we do it mechanically without even being consciously aware of our doing it. I am referring about the occasions where we need to thank people who have helped us either directly or indirectly. often, we take this kind of help granted and move on without stopping to thank the person. For example, if you are looking for a lawyer who can advise you on a particular issue and someone suggests one. You go to that lawyer and find that he is really good. Will you make it a point to thank your friend for suggesting him. In many cases, your friend might have suggested a name in a casual manner and might have forgotten it. But when you have benefited from his suggestion, should you not make it a point to convey your thanks to him.

If you think about it, you will have a lot of people to be thankful for various things. Make it a habit to express your thankfulness to all those to whom you owe it.

The more you are thankful, the more you attract things to be thankful for.

Saturday, March 8, 2014

Two Types of Motivation

Nothing succeeds like success, they say. If you succeed once, you find that succeeding again is easier. This is because success is a great motivator. Success creates immense confidence you. 'You have made it once. So, you can make it again and you can make it any number of times' is the message subconsciously generated at a time you achieve success. Since confidence is a powerful driving force, you will find it easier to accomplish more.

The reverse happens when you fail. Failure erodes your confidence and intensifies your fears. You will be liable to think that you will fail again. So, when you try to do the same thing again or a new thing, the fear of failure can trip your chances of success. A repeat failure will intensify the fear of failure and will create a failure syndrome.

So, how do we react to failure? The most common way people react to failure is to avoid trying. If I don't try, I can't fail. Therefore not trying and thus avoiding failure seems better than trying and failing. Thus failure also motivates people in a negative way. It motivates you to avoid doing things that you fear. You will be surprised to know that a large number of people give up their efforts to learn driving a scooter if they fall down once. Same is the case with car driving. They rationalize their avoidance by inventing reasons like it is cheaper to hire a cab whenever you need than to own a car.

People take a lot of care to avoid doing the things they fear. A student who fails in a test once will invent reasons for not taking up the test again. People will send money and keep themselves far away to avoid a public speaking obligation. Well, you can find out examples from your own life about the occasions when  you have avoided failure.

So there is a success motivation and a failure avoidance motivation, the latter being much stronger than the former!