Tuesday, September 24, 2013

9. Can you infuence others through your thoughts?

Can you influence others through your thoughts?  I can't give you a definite answer to this. But if you can reword this question, I may be able to provide you an answer. Let's see how.

Do your thoughts influence others' behavior? The answers is a definite yes. I may not be able to prove this. But you can get a lot of empirical evidence.

You can test this easily. Approach someone with whom you interact everyday. He or she can be someone related to your work, family or social circle. Ask that person to do something. It may be as simple as giving you some information or doing you a small favor. It can even be a part of the other person's duty. Before approaching that person, spend a minute thinking about that person. Generate some positive thoughts about the person like how helpful and understanding that person is. Observe the response. You will find that in most of the cases, the response from the other person will be positive and encouraging.

Try the same experiment with another set of people. Now think something bad about that person like how unhelpful and unreasonable that person is. You will find that in a majority of the cases, you will find the responses to be unhelpful and even hostile.

But I would suggest that you do only the first and not the second. Develop positive thoughts about the people you deal with. Just observe in how many cases you get a positive response. You will find the experience not only encouraging but also exciting.

The more and more you do this consciously, the greater and greater will be the results you get. What more, after some time, you don't have to do this consciously. This attitude will become your second nature!

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